Divorce is a difficult experience for spouses to endure and, if you think you are having a hard time coping with it, imagine what your children might be going through. Even the most amicable divorce will present some hardships for children and, regardless if they are exhibiting signs of an emotional struggle or not, your children are likely having some difficulties with processing this new information and the uncertainty attached to it. Of course, given the fact that no two children are alike, they will understandably cope differently with a divorce. Some might show more aggression and anger than usual, while others might cry or appear to be more sensitive. However, your child is reacting, if you are unsure whether or not to seek therapy for your children, it is best to err on the side of caution and take them to a therapist.
To further assist you in making this decision, here are some general hints that your children might need or benefit from therapy:
- Trusted friends, family members, or other individuals who are regularly part of your child’s life have expressed concern
- You often feel angry, exhausted, or disappointed with your child
- Your child’s behavior or symptoms are interfering with the normal functions of your family
- Your child’s behavior or symptoms interfere with his or her usual functions
- Your child asks to see a therapist (rare, but not impossible)
Here are some more specific symptoms that might suggest your children need therapy:
- Lack of appetite or difficulty sleeping, neither of which are medical related
- Excessive difficulties coping with the separation
- A persistent sad and melancholic mood
- Physical complaints that are not linked to a distinguishable cause
- Loss of interest in friends or trouble getting along with peers
- Deterioration in school performance
- Inability to concentrate
- Unrealistic fears and phobias
- Pathological lying
- Risky behaviors
- Excessive weight loss or gain that is unrelated to a medical condition
- Rude behavior
- Theft
Many of these signs are on the more extreme side of the spectrum, but if you recognize any of these in your children, you will want to consider taking him or her to a therapist. Your divorce is never going to be a pleasant memory for your children and it is okay to acknowledge that it is a sad event, but it is important to ensure it does not become a turning point in their lives towards negative and self-destructive behavior.
New York City Divorce Attorney
Deciding to end a marriage is not an easy thing, but it is sometimes necessary. At Eiges & Orgel, PLLC, we can provide the skilled and experienced legal services you will need during this emotionally challenging time for your family. Our firm has effectively assisted clients with the legal termination of their marriages for more than three decades and would be honored to do the same for you.
Speak with an attorney today and contact us at (347) 848-1850. We are open on Saturdays.